My PassionRelationships have always fascinated me. From both ends of the spectrum: the unparalleled joy of falling in love, having a partner to share life ’s joys and sorrows; and the difficulties couples encounter, which can make or break the relationship.
While there are people who are fortunate to have found their soulmates, many are struggling to have a deep connection with a partner, or running into the same patterns in relationship after relationship. Others are with their ideal partner, yet have become clouded by life ’s stressors and given up on trying to make things work. Sometimes one partner is invested in working on the challenges, while the other is not, creating a stalemate.
I do couple counselling from an emotionally focused perspective, focusing on attachment needs. EFT has been found to be the most effective approach for couple counselling and is used world- wide.
In our work together, I meet with both partners for the first session, followed by an individual session with each partner, before coming back together. Please be advised that in my work with couples, I have a no secrets policy, which means that information that is disclosed to me by one partner and is unknown to the other (such as an affair, problematic drug or alcohol use, financial debts, etc.) will need to be shared in the couple sessions.
Empathy is a special way of coming to know another and ourself, a kind of attuning and understanding. When empathy is extended, it satisfies our needs and wish for intimacy, it rescues us from our feelings of aloneness.”